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- “How are things feeling at home lately?”<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- “Is there anything that has become harder to manage?”<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- “What would make your day a little easier?”<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- “Is there anything you would like more help with?”<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- “What would help you continue doing the things you enjoy?”<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
These questions can open the door to a conversation without making the person feel that decisions have already been made for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Focus on What They Want to Keep Doing<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Home care does not have to mean giving up independence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In many situations, support can actually help a person continue doing the things that are important to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For example, a caregiver might help with meal preparation while the person continues choosing what they want to eat. Someone may receive help with transportation while continuing to decide where they want to go. A caregiver may provide assistance with bathing or dressing while allowing the individual to maintain as much control over their routine as possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The focus is not simply on what someone cannot do. It is also on what they can do and want to continue doing<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nTalk About Specific Changes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
General statements such as “You need more help” can easily feel critical or overwhelming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Instead, talk about specific observations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You might say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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“I’ve noticed that grocery shopping seems more tiring lately. Would it help if someone came with you or helped with the shopping?”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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“You’ve mentioned that mornings have been difficult. Would having someone help for a few hours make your mornings easier?”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Specific examples can make the conversation more practical and less emotional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Offer Choices Instead of Ultimatums<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Whenever possible, give the person choices.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Would you prefer help in the morning or afternoon?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Would you rather have help with meals, errands, or housekeeping?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Would you like to start with a few hours a week?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Would you feel more comfortable meeting a caregiver before deciding?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Would you like a family member involved in the care discussion?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Having choices can help a person remain involved in decisions about their own care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<\/figure>\n\n\n\nStart Small When Appropriate<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Home care does not necessarily have to begin with a major change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Some families start with a few hours of companionship, help with meals, transportation, light housekeeping, or errands. Others may begin with respite support for a family caregiver.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As needs change, the amount or type of assistance can change too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At ComForCare Home Care North San Diego, care is designed around each person’s routines, abilities, preferences, health needs and goals. The local team works with families to explore the type and level of support that may be appropriate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Listen to Concerns About Having a Caregiver at Home<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
It is normal for someone to have concerns about inviting a caregiver into their home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They may worry about:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Having a stranger in their personal space<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Losing privacy<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Giving up control<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Being judged<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Becoming dependent on someone<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- The cost of care<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Whether the caregiver will understand their preferences<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Give those concerns room in the conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rather than immediately trying to convince them, ask what specifically worries them. Understanding the concern can help the family find a more appropriate solution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Remember That Acceptance May Take Time<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
One conversation may not be enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Someone who initially says no may become more open to help after experiencing a change in mobility, recovering from an illness, having a difficult week, or realizing that certain household tasks are becoming harder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Keeping the conversation open allows the person to revisit the decision when they are ready.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How Home Care Can Support Independence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Personalized in-home care can provide assistance while allowing individuals to remain in familiar surroundings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Depending on individual needs and services available, support may include:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Personal care<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Companion care<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Meal planning and preparation<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Light housekeeping<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Transportation and errands<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Medication reminders<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Safety supervision<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Respite care<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Dementia support<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Assistance after a hospital stay<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
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